After that she asked if we could go to the mall because she wanted a pink dress. When we got to the mall she fell in love with a hot pink one peice swimsuit with sparkles. It looked identical to one I had at her age and it was always my favorite.We went in shop after shop and she said "mommy none of these have earrings I want my ears pierced". Savana has had her ears pierced two times before and they grew back because she was a baby and wouldn't let me touch them. I asked three or four or fifty times are you sure? She kept saying Yes over and over. So I knew we better go now or she will never want to do this again.
So we went to the ear piercing store and I could tell she was nervous. As they were gathering the scary looking supplies she and I went and looked around at all the pretty earrings and tryed on some funny hats. Finally the moment arrived, she sat up in the chair so big. There were two ladies so they could do them both at the same time. Well they went one two... one snapped and the other didn't. Savana said Ahhh and then finally the other lady snapped. I just knew I was about to have a daughter with one earring. When she realized it was over she grinned from ear to ear. She didn't even cry, but I did. This was a big decision for her and she did it! I was so proud of her and it made me realize how big she is getting.The ladies apologized to us for not getting them at the same time but Savana just thanked them both. She stood in front of the mirror in the store for at least 20 minutes just smiling so happy and proud of herself. She called everyone and boastfully told them "I got my ears pierced!".
After we left the ear piercing store we went to Academy Sports. I had to get some new flip flops and Brayden needed a better float for the pool. She was so well behaved and well mannered. I can't get over how good she was all day. At Academy she again thanked the clerk.
Once we got home she of course showed EVERYONE her earrings and new bathing suit. It was 7:00 but I knew she really wanted to try that bathing suit out so I took her swimming. She played so well, there was a couple there that had a beach ball and they gave it to her. They left pretty quickly and Savana said "mommy that man left and I didn't get to tell him thank you for the beach ball. Maybe he will be here tommorow so I can tell him."
After an hour of swimming we came home ate a bowl of cereal and she helped me fold clothes. At bedtime we read her two favorite books, snuggled, and talked. She kept saying how much fun she had and how she LOVED those earrings.
In raising kids I have always said I want my children to be polite,self confident, and caring of others feelings. It was so awesome today to hear Savana tell everyone Thank you and yes ma'am, no ma'am. I feel self confidence is soo important especially for a girl. I think if a child has self confidence then they won't follow in the peer pressure as much as the other kid trying to fit in. A self confident child or teenager is happy in his/her own skin not in someone elses. There is a difference in self confidence and arrogance and its a fine line. That is where caring and being polite falls in place. I tell Savana all the time no matter if someone is big, small, tall, short, different looking they are beautiful.
Job 22:21-30
21 "Submit to God and be at peace with him;
in this way prosperity will come to you.
22 Accept instruction from his mouth
and lay up his words in your heart.
23 If you return to the Almighty, you will be restored:
If you remove wickedness far from your tent
24 and assign your nuggets to the dust,
your gold of Ophir to the rocks in the ravines,
25 then the Almighty will be your gold,
the choicest silver for you.
26 Surely then you will find delight in the Almighty
and will lift up your face to God.
27 You will pray to him, and he will hear you,
and you will fulfill your vows.
28 What you decide on will be done,
and light will shine on your ways.
29 When men are brought low and you say, 'Lift them up!'
then he will save the downcast.
30 He will deliver even one who is not innocent,
who will be delivered through the cleanness of your hands."
There are alot of kids that are into being popular because they feel it defines them. I never want my child to be popular because she was mean or put on a pedestal because of his/her looks. If my child becomes popular I want it to be because she is friendly to everyone. I don't want Savana to be self consumed and be arrogant I want her to see beauty in everyone. I see the politeness part and I see her being friendly to other children. I don't ever speak about another persons appearance because I know how that feels to be made fun of something you can't change.I'm not saying I never did do that but I don't ever now. And if you catch yourself saying something about someones appearance in front of your child you are teaching them its ok.
Savana and I had an AWESOME day and I look forward to so many more. She just kept thanking me and saying "no stinky boys around just you and me mommy". It made me realize she and I need that time. It was so refreshing. And when Brayden gets old enough he and I will have Mommy and Brayden day.
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